My darling daughter Bee has just turned two. What an age!
She can be sweet, defiant, innocent, mischievous, cute, challenging, independent, stubborn, inquisitive, bossy, confident, self-centred, curious, considerate, kind and adorable all in the span of a few minutes.
Most of all, she wants to feel like she has some control over aspects of her life. She has definite ideas about what she wants, and what she doesn’t, and is testing boundaries. Couple this with a two year old’s immature emotional control and you have the propensity for delight to turn despair in seconds, microseconds even.
I know that, with respect and patience, in a few months time we’ll come out of this tricky period with our strong mother-daughter bond intact. In the meantime, I’m doing my best to choose my battles, make age appropriate compromises, and take a few deep breaths every now and again. Some things are of course non-negotiable but here are 8 battles that I’m letting Bee win for now.
- Bed hair. Some days she let’s me brush it, but some days she doesn’t. So be it.
- Shoes are optional. Except for situations where there may be glass. It’s better for her growing feet anyway. And she’s much easier to reason with when she actually feels that the pavement is hot, or the grass has bindies, or that gumnuts hurt the soles of little feet.
- Breaking the fashion rules. Yup, she can wear polka dot leggings with that floral top and this stripy beret. Wings too? Why not! The more clashing the outfit, the more sweet comments we get from passer-bys about how adorable she looks. 🙂
- Nappies for the vertically inclined. Getting Bee to lie down for a nappy change is sometimes nigh on impossible. Switching to BabyLove nappy pants means I can follow her around the house during her after-the-bath-nudie-run, and ask her to step into her nappy instead of submissively lying down. The stretchy sides make them easy to slip on. A few extra cents per nappy is well worth the price for a happy end-of-day routine.
- The blue cup. If I serve milk in a yellow cup and Bee actually wanted it in the blue one, then washing up an extra cup is less effort than trying to reason with her about why I don’t want to wash up the extra said cup. Yes, catering to her fickle demands all day long is emotionally exhausting, but on the bright side she are learning to identify colours.
- Eliminating the dinner-time battle. I want mealtimes to be pleasant social experiences. Providing lots of yummy healthy choices throughout the day takes the pressure off dinner time. As long as Bee tries (which for us means to have a small lick) of everything on her plate, I don’t mind how much she actually eats.
- Big emotions. It’s OK for toddlers to be angry sometimes. Or sad sometimes. Or jealous sometimes. Distracting or trying to cheer Bee up just makes matters worse, as she feels misunderstood. So instead we’re working on identifying, naming, talking about and having a suitable outlet or strategy for these emotions. It’s great for her emotional intelligence, and it makes for less tantrums. Speaking of which…
- Chuck a tantrum. They do sometimes happen, and once we’ve gotten to the point of no return, trying to stop one actually makes it worse. So yes I give my toddler permission to have a tantie in the middle of the shopping centre aisle if she needs to, with affirming words such as “Let me help you down so you don’t hit your head. I can see you’re feeling very upset. Take your time, I’m not rushing you. Let me know if you need a cuddle because sometimes a cuddle helps.”
After their bath, the girls madly dashed into Bee’s room and closed the door. I heard a few giggles, so I thought I would let them be. Then, about a minute later, Bee emerged with her BabyLove nappy pants already on! JJ had managed to put them on for her. So if a four year old can put them on a squirmy two year old, then you know they must be easy to pull up. 🙂
Actually Bee has become quite fond of her BabyLove nappy pants of late. She likes the little Baby Bud cartoon character that is on the front of them. (There’s a little video of his birth story here, in case you want to check it out…)
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[EDIT: A year and a bit on, I’m rereading this post and marvelling that most of these challenges have sorted themselves out. It’s reaffirmed, for me, that time old parenting phrase, “This too, shall pass.” We have new challenges now. I think I’ll once again choose which ones are worth tackling head on, and which ones can go through to the keeper, for now at least.]
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